Whether we like it or not, we were meant to live within community.
Extrovert or not, married or single, we need people (other than your spouse, if you have one) with whom we can do life, people who have the liberty to speak into our life and vice/versa. We need actual friends, not just people we’re “friends” with on Facebook. We need not live life as if we are an island. Instead, we need to ask for help when we need it and freely give help when others need it. We need people with whom we can rejoice, with whom we can cry, with whom we can grow and change. We need the courage to admit to others when we’re wrong. We need the courage to gently tell those with whom we have relationship that they’re wrong – not for the purposes of berating them but instead with the pledge to help them, for the purpose of bringing wholeness, not shame.
That being said…
In an age of posers, pick your friends wisely. I’m thankful John and I have done just that.
Yesterday we had the opportunity to spend the entire day with three people we love dearly. After hearing of our leaky roof (or so we thought), which was causing serious structural damage in our kitchen, and knowing that John was too stubborn to ask for help, Chris, Rachel and baby Ainsley just showed up at our door. They came to be Jesus’ hands and feet. In a matter of hours, the men were able to pin-point in the attic what was causing the damage in the kitchen (a pipe leak instead of a roof leak, which is a MUCH cheaper fix!), provide a temporary solution in the attic, and re-enforce the kitchen ceiling. While the men were working, Rachel and I were able to catch up and have really meaningful, honest conversation. Ainsley talked, too, but we aren’t quite sure what she was saying. 😉 After the work was completed, we shared a meal together, watched some football and shared some refreshingly honest conversation between the four of us. We laughed a lot, but we also talked about struggles and admitted faults.
Toward the end of the night, I sat on our couch and thought, “This is how life is meant to be done. This is what Jesus wants for His children.” When it was time to say goodbye, I was so thankful that what started out as such a stressful day turned into a great day all because of friends.
I pray, if you haven’t already, you find the sense of community we have found in our circle of friends.
They truly make life on this fallen earth much easier!