Why Our Marriage Works…Most of the Time

2 years ago today, I married my best friend...

…and we’ve lived happily ever after thus far.

Thankfully, that’s true for the most part, as in 99% of the time. 😉

The fact is having a good marriage is hard work…
Having a GREAT, Christ-centered marriage is even harder.

We’re far from perfect (just ask our close friends), but I do think, by God’s grace, we have the latter the vast majority of the time. Over the span of the last 730 days of our marriage, and well over 1,000 days of being in some form of a relationship with each other, I can count the number of  “real fights” (not to be confused with petty spats that last 2 minutes) we’ve had on one hand. I’m very thankful for that fact, as I know many young married couples cannot say the same.

Why does marriage seem to “work” for us?

I think it has to do with these…

Marriage Builders:

  • We both have a personal relationship with Jesus and put Him first before our spouse.
  • We both put no one above our spouse other than Jesus and make no apologies for it.
  • We spend time alone and together with the Lord.
  • We both understand the covenant we made before God and 300+ people and don’t take our marriage lightly.
  • We both understand that Biblical submission doesn’t mean I’m my husband’s slave. Instead, we understand that we’re mutually committed to submitting (serving) the Lord and one another. John is the High Priest of our Home, just as Christ is for the Church, but my opinion is highly valuable and needed in our union. When we both submit to Him, and then respect and serve one another, life is good.
  • We say “I love you” multiple times a day.
  • We understand that love is a verb, not a feeling.
  • We realize that life is fleeting and cherish every moment together and don’t take years together for granted.
  • We celebrate how differently we’re wired and are very thankful for how we compliment the other.
  • We agree on how to be good stewards of our financial resources and view our money as ours, not his and mine.
  • WE FORGIVE – always and very quickly.
  • We both try to serve our spouse through the way they feel loved the most, which for the most part happens to be in completely different ways.
  • We value intimacy and are always touching in some manner if around the other (holding hands at the store, etc.)
  • Sex has never been used as a bartering tool in our marriage; we serve the other happily and often.
  • We try not to isolate ourselves but instead live in community with other awesome Christians (married and single).
  • We’re both our spouse’s best friend and find joy in living in simplicity together.
  • We aren’t afraid to disagree but always do so respectfully.
  • We realize we’re two imperfect humans living under one roof who are working out their salvation every day. We just happen to be doing it in very close proximity to the other.

Happy Anniversary, Baby! I love you!

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One response to “Why Our Marriage Works…Most of the Time

  1. Valerie Delong

    I really appreciated your words of wisdom!!

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