A few days ago, I came across this quote from Pastor Pete Wilson’s blog and fell in love with it.
More suffering comes into the world by people taking offense
than by people intending to give offense.
– Ken Keyes
I tend to be a pretty easy-going, very-hard-to-offend person.
Others in my life – not so much.
“Touchy” is a good word to describe them. I still love them, though.
I’ve never really understood the easily offended. Life’s short. The idea of spending much of my life talking , or worse yet passively stewing, about how so-and-so hurt me – intentional or not – doesn’t sound appealing.
Now, that doesn’t mean that there aren’t times we need to admit we’ve been offended. That can be hard but vitally important for intimacy in relationships. Let’s face it, though, the quote is true.
Many times we are offended because there’s something going on in us.
We need to give people the benefit of the doubt.
Sometimes, even though I hate to admit it, I need to do that, too.
With whom, you ask?
I sometimes expect impossible feats out of one human being, one finite human like myself.
He’s a man of few words (opposites do attract), so I have a bad tendency to analyze every word said – or not said – to the millionth degree. Every angle. Every voice inflection. I just want to know he’s happy with me, thinks I’m the most beautiful woman in the world, loves me for me, etc. etc. When he makes a harmless joke or doesn’t give me the words of affirmation I desire, I can get all uptight and insecure.
When I do, there’s something going on in me. I can put way too much pressure on myself and on him.
I need to give him the benefit of the doubt.
I need to give myself the benefit of the doubt.
I need to not be so touchy.
What about you?